Common Myths About the Marriage Amendment

Myth:  “The Marriage Amendment will take away rights from gay and lesbian citizens.”

Truth:  The Amendment Does Not Take Away Rights:

  • Gays and Lesbians have a right to live as they choose; they don’t have a right to redefine marriage for the rest of us.
  • Homosexual couples can still engage in private commitment ceremonies and engage in private adult consensual sexual conduct.
  • There is no right to marry someone of the same sex, just as there is no right to marry your sister, to marry someone who is under 14 years old, or to marry more than one person.

Myth:  “The Marriage Amendment will prevent businesses from continuing to offer benefits to same-sex partners.”

Truth:  The Amendment Does NOT Prevent Businesses from Offering Benefits to Same-Sex Partners:

  • The Amendment will not prevent businesses that offer benefits to same-sex couples from continuing to offer those benefits—including health insurance. It has no legal impact on private businesses in any way.
  • Nothing in the Amendment prohibits local governments or the UNC System from offering or continuing to offer benefits to same-sex partners of employees or students, as long as they do not base it on a relationship like domestic partnerships or civil unions.
  • Constitutional protections for marriage will actually help businesses, because the choice to offer same-sex partner benefits can continue to be based on the businesses’ own decision framework, instead of being mandated by government.

Myth:  “The Marriage Amendment will harm recruiting efforts of businesses.”

Truth:  The Amendment Will Not Hurt Business Recruitment:

  • Passage of the Amendment will not keep the State from recruiting new businesses. Neither will the Amendment prevent companies in North Carolina from attracting the brightest and best workers.  Companies located in states that have Constitutional Amendments defining marriage as between one man and one woman continue to attract talented workers and grow their businesses.[1]  Examples of such states are Virginia, South Carolina, and Texas.
  • North Carolina is consistently ranked as one of the top places in America to work, to do business, and to live.[2] Our state marriage laws have not hampered those ratings one bit, but are in fact one of the very reasons that North Carolina is ranked so highly.
  • Protecting marriage will actually benefit business, because marriage produces a stable, productive, balanced workforce.  Without procreation, economic growth is impossible.

Myth:  “The Marriage Amendment will result in writing discrimination into the Constitution.”

Truth:  The Amendment is not about discriminating against anyone.  It is about preventing radical redefinition of marriage, families, and the natural process of producing and raising children within the safe, nurturing, and successful incubator of marriage.

  • The real issue is whether we want to grant a government license for gay marriage. The purpose of a license is to protect society.
  • Drivers’ licenses seek to protect other motorists and pedestrians from danger stemming from unqualified drivers.
  • Marriage licenses protect society from familial chaos by promoting stable unions for the purpose of responsibly producing and raising healthy, successful children in the best social unit possible—one consisting of their own mother and father.

Myth:  The ban on gay marriage is like the bans on interracial marriage.

Truth:  Gay marriage is totally different from interracial marriage.

  • Bans on interracial marriage were about keeping two races apart so that one race could oppress the other.
  • Marriage is about bringing two sexes together, so that children get the love of their own mom and dad, and women don’t get stuck with the enormous disadvantages of parenting alone.
  • Having a parent of two different races is just not the same as being deprived of your mother—or your father.

Myth:  It would be a good compromise to allow domestic partnerships or civil unions, while recognizing that marriage is only the union of one man and one woman.

Truth:  Domestic Partnerships and Civil Unions are just a “stepping stone” to legalizing gay “marriage.”

  • Domestic partnerships and civil unions have all the rights and benefits of marriage.  They are just marriage by another name.  Legalizing same-sex relationships is wrong, whatever name it is given–same-sex “marriage,” civil unions, or domestic partnerships.
  • It is never enough to satisfy gay rights activists.  They keep pushing to have civil unions and domestic partnerships called “marriage.”  The compromise is used as the hammer to push for same-sex “marriage.” This has happened or is presently going on in California, Colorado, Connecticut, Delaware, District of Columbia, Hawaii, Illinois, Maine, Maryland, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New York, Oregon, and Vermont.
  • Government endorsement and financial benefits should not be given on the basis of sexual behavior.

Myth:  Gay “marriage” is inevitable, because the tide of public opinion is turning.

Truth:  North Carolinians and Americans still overwhelmingly believe marriage should be defined as the union of one man and one woman.

  • When asked if they agree with the statement: “I believe MARRIAGE should be defined ONLY as a union between one man and one woman,” 62% of Americans agree.  [3]
  • In North Carolina, most polls show between 62% and 70% of registered voters support a constitutional amendment defining marriage as between one man and one woman.[4]
  • Advocates of gay marriage should not be allowed to redefine marriage for the rest of us.
  • Gay households in North Carolina number less than three percent of the population.[5]

Myth:  Same-sex “marriage” doesn’t hurt me or anyone else.

Truth:  Same-sex “marriage” hurts everyone.

  • The people of North Carolina will lose the right to define marriage as the union of husband and wife.
  • Religious groups like Catholic Charities or the Salvation Army may lose their tax exemptions, or be denied the use of parks and other public facilities, unless they endorse gay marriage.
  • Small businesses like wedding florists and bed and breakfasts will be denied the right to refuse service to gay couples on religious grounds.
  • All businesses will will be forced to provide benefits to same-sex partners.  This will take away their freedom to make the decision based on business principles and subject them to government mandated same-sex partner benefits.
  • Public schools will teach young children that same-sex relationships are normal, and sex education classes will include explicit same-sex instruction.
  • Gay marriage by definition deprives children of either a mother or a father.  Social science concludes that children need both a mother and a father for the healthiest outcomes.
  • Gay marriage threatens social survival by severing procreation from marriage.  It undermines public interest in favoring relationships required to perpetuate the race.

Myth:  Divorce is a bigger threat to marriage than gay “marriage.”

Truth:  Same Sex-Marriage will not reduce the number of divorces but will remove what gives marriage institutional structure.

  • We should be strengthening marriage, not conducting radical social experiments on it.
  • It would make sense if, and only if, homosexuals believed in saving sex for marriage and limiting sex to marriage, which is simply not the case.  Monogamy among heterosexuals is 83 percent but less than 2 percent for homosexuals.[6]
  • Same-sex marriage will actually increase divorce.

[1] States like Virginia and Michigan which have the highest level of protection for marriage in their State’s Constitutions show numerous companies listed with a 100% rating. Human Rights Campaign, “Best Places to Work: Corporate Equality Index 2011, at[2] Ranked #3 in CNBC’s, “America’s Top States for Business 2011” at;  Raleigh, NC Ranked #1 in Forbes’, “Best Places for Business and Careers,” June 29, 2011, at; US News: Money, “Best Places to Live 2009” at[3] Stephanie Samuel, “Most Americans Still Believe in Traditional Marriage, Poll Shows,” June 17, 2011 at[4] 73% favor or strongly favor, Civitas Institute Poll, December 2009, at; 70% favor or strongly favor, Civitas Institute Poll, April 2010, at; 62% favor or strongly favor, Civitas Institute Poll, October 4, 2011, at[5] Mitch Weiss, “Census Shows Jump in Reported Number of Gay Households,” Greensboro News-Record, June 30, 2011, at[6] Jeffrey Satinover, M.C., “Homosexuality and the Politics of Truth” (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Books, 1996), 54.  The data from which Dr. Satinover draws these figures is the Sex in America survey published by researchers from the University of Chicago in 1994.